SASBEs... offering too many?
I wasn't going to post this, but after reading Ollierose's comments and the replies to them, I decided to just jump in. I know there are people who have received SASBEs who are truly appreciative and will find this offensive and think they are being picked on, which is not the intent of this post.
When I first joined GW, there were a lot less offers of SASBE and very few outright requests for free seeds. I know that many people had issues with Spike, but the fact is he did a very good job of monitoring requests (not offers) for free seed, and it was pretty rare to get asked for seeds if you had not offered them.
In the past few years, I've seen a lot more offers of SASBE (including mine), and also an increase in the number of requests (without being offered) for free seeds. As was pointed out in one of Ollie's threads, offers of trades seem to invariably draw people who want the seeds given to them, so many people now feel they have to post TRADE ONLY--NO SASBEs, which still doesn't stop the requests.
Sorry for the kind of muddled thinking here, but I am wondering if we are offering too many SASBEs on GW, and it is leading to a culture of entitlement. People who read the threads see that there is so much being offered, and I think some of them believe why not ask for it all? No harm in asking, right? But the fact is that people who always take and don't offer things never learn how much time and effort it takes to monitor seed development, harvest them at the right time, dry them/pack them in appropriate manners, label them, etc. I don't think they have a true appreciation for the value of what they are getting (I actually get emails that offer "to take those seeds off my hands" as if they are doing me a favor!)
I offered 7 SASBEs on a private basis over the last couple of weeks. Despite the fact that I tell the responders that they MUST INCLUDE a LIST OF WHAT I AGREED TO SEND THEM (with an explanation as to why it is so important), two of them did not include a list; one of them didn't enclose stamps (that person is now accusing me of lying, offering the SASBE to them just so I could steal their stamps); one of them decided to ask me for several more things than the 10 packets of seeds I'd agreed to send them which unfortunately is not a rare occurrence; and three did everything right. It is disheartening to go to the trouble of offering seeds and find that less than 50% of the people accepting that offer will bother to do the most basic things on their end--I'm not even going to mention those who never bother to follow-through on sending their SASBEs.
What do you think? Are we devaluing the seeds offered here because we give so many of them away? Has the positive feeling of giving and helping been overshadowed by the hassle and/or feeling of being taken advantage of? Or are people like me who give away far more than we trade simply burned out and need to take a break from offering?