For the ladies: name change distress
A recent column in the newspaper has stuck in my mind and won't fade. I think it was a letter to one of the advice columnists: Woman married and did NOT change her surname. She was harrassed at her office with male co-workers insisting on adressing her -and introducing her to clients- by "Mrs. [husband's surname]. Among other things, columnist advised to remind co-workers that such behavior was illegal.
What I keep thinking about is what a PIA it was/is to change your name: driver's license, SSN, library card, tax info, bank info, credit card info, stock certificates, and on and on. Each change done in person and documentation required (show that wedding certificate). My sympathy is obviously with the letter-writer ~ and before any man criticizes, I really think he should have to go through the time-consuming loops involved in officially changing one's name. If males were expected to adhere to the name-change expectation, I suspect retaining one's birth name soon would be looked upon quite favorably.