Minor irritations become big...
when one is not fully functional and wants to minimize the "I want" - or "will you get me...please" and so tries to organize things so to be able to just get or do something, and the care-taker doesn't pay attention and even gets slightly hurt when it's pointed out.
Example: I keep important paperwork in one spot on my desk, along with the check-book, envelopes, stamps etc and a pen. Make my way to the desk to do some things, and can't find the pen, it's on the kitchen counter, daughter needed to make a shopping list, used that pen and left it. I tried to explain that I need this stuff organized just one way, and she's a bit miffed, thinks I am "bossing her around', says "it's easy to keep things organized if you live alone, but other people in the household change the situation...that is not what I meant at all, just leave my stuff or put it back, so I can relieve her of the "fetch" requests as much as I can.
She says: "I am 57 years old, run a business and a household and travel and go to meetings and seminars, you don't need to remind me..."
It's so irritating and frustrating;I love her dearly, she nice looking, smart, personable and very talented and all that and doesn't get it.
One solution I thought up for some of it: I attached a plastic bag to the walker, and carry small items, cough-drops, my phone, my glasses-case and a pen - it does help.
Am I over-reacting or ? Just venting...