The Kids Are All Right
Out for lunch with a friend yesterday and this film came up in conversation. I think the best thing I can say about it is that is "all right." It's about a lesbian couple who each has a child by the same sperm donor--different moms, the same dad. It's ironic that a film that tries to show that a marriage between lesbians is not much different from a marriage between a man and a woman actually reinforces a lot of stereotypes. First, it's definitely a situation in which one of the women plays the "husband" (she makes the money) and the other the "wife" (the stay-at-home who is really not encouraged to move beyond that by her partner). Second, while the lesbians are frequently potrayed in romantic situations, they are never portrayed actually having sex--well, once, but it turns out to be a dud. Guess the audience is supposed to think "poor things, they can't get it right." However, when one partner becomes sexually involved with the sperm donor dad, the screen is practically smoking with their gyrations. He really thinks this means the lover will abandon her partner of many years and run off with him--you know, all she needs is a good you-know-what and she'll turn straight. I did like the ending--love wins and the kids really are all right--but there were a lot of missed chances to really investigate same-sex marriage. That's an issue for our time and maybe this is just a first attempt to tackle it in a mainstream Hollywood film rether than an indie.