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rozannadanna(8 TX)July 30, 2007

And of course I had to share with my bestest friends in the world.

Met a new gentleman. I knew I was in deep dookey when I found out he was an obsessive gardener; used to own a nursery and had owned a company/catelogue that sold wild flower seeds.

First Date - he meets me with a balloon - said he knew that a cut flower just wouldn't do - flowers would have to be ones I could plant in the ground.

And he has the whole day planned - breakfast - gardens, gardens, lunch, gardens, gardens, nurseries - a place he knew of that I could buy alfalfa pellets and to finish it off a concert in the park.

I am getting the idea that this man is really trying to impress me and he is doing a perfectly splendid job of it.

Do you think I should go out with him again? By the way - he has a tiller.

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AnneCecilia z5 MI

Oh, my! My heart's aflutter just thinking of a man like that! He sounds like a gift from above, Rozanne. I say enjoy it. :-)

Anne

    Bookmark   July 30, 2007 at 9:57PM
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rozannadanna(8 TX)

and he has white flowing hair and a mustache and is cute as the dickens.

    Bookmark   July 30, 2007 at 10:04PM
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labrea_gw

If your asking us of course you want to go out with him and why not! As my dear departed mother would say... ah it's just a day out... until the jig starts playing! Anyone hear the fiddle tuning up!

    Bookmark   July 30, 2007 at 10:34PM
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rainlily_sis

Sounds like Sam Elliot.

Yep, go out with him!
Sis

    Bookmark   July 30, 2007 at 11:17PM
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harryshoe zone6 eastern Pennsylvania

He knows where to buy alfalfa and has a tiller? Hell. I want to go out with him!

Seriously Rozanna, It doesn't surprise me that a gentleman would make such a fuss over someone like you. I think you're due a break. Enjoy.

    Bookmark   July 31, 2007 at 7:03AM
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pagan(8b)

me too me too! Send him on over when you get done with him, Harry!!

    Bookmark   July 31, 2007 at 7:22AM
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rozannadanna(8 TX)

Pagan, as much as I love you I don't think I want to share him.

    Bookmark   July 31, 2007 at 8:45AM
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carla17(Z7 NC)

Of course, go for it!!! Please let us have a progress report.You deserve some happiness and let him spoil you!!

Love ya,
Carla

    Bookmark   July 31, 2007 at 9:25AM
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pete41(9ab FL.)

Yeah but Harry might.
Hair is highly over-rated.
Have fun-nothing to gain by denial.

    Bookmark   July 31, 2007 at 9:43AM
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sammy zone 7 Tulsa

Yes, do go out with him.

Sammy

    Bookmark   July 31, 2007 at 9:54AM
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taureau

Yes, second date sounds fine, just don't jump into somthing until you know him, really know him. Bonne chance!

    Bookmark   July 31, 2007 at 11:46AM
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anntn6b(z6b TN)

I'm so sorry, but I just have to suggest that you check with Garden W*tchdog. If he has a good rating for selling seeds, that means he's good to total strangers. And IMO that's a strong stroke in his favor.
Meanwhile, enjoy, but don't wear your heart on your sleeve.
Good luck,
Ann

    Bookmark   July 31, 2007 at 12:52PM
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rozannadanna(8 TX)

Ann - the seed business was long ago - so probably not rated by Garden W. But that's a great suggestion. And what heart. I am in this for the tiller and the garden tours

    Bookmark   July 31, 2007 at 1:12PM
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taureau

rozannadanna, great attitude. You can never be too careful. Everyone is guilty, until proven innocent.

    Bookmark   July 31, 2007 at 2:33PM
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rozannadanna(8 TX)

I figure public gardens and libraries are fairly safe - especially in the daylight.

    Bookmark   July 31, 2007 at 6:46PM
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pagan(8b)

keep us posted! If he turns out to be an axe murderer, ask him if he takes requests! I know, you can google him - and check to see if he is on the sex offendeers registry. I think that info is available on-line.

    Bookmark   August 1, 2007 at 8:11AM
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rozannadanna(8 TX)

Pagan I actually did that. But I have talked to his children and they seem normal.

Also - being an ax murder is a young man's game - bodies are hard to dispose of.

    Bookmark   August 1, 2007 at 10:25AM
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paparoseman(z8 WA. PO.)

Forget axe murder, what if it turns out he is a rose murderer. There are many of us here that either live with one or know someone who does.

Don't fall for the tiller too fast and have a good time you deserve it.

Lance

    Bookmark   August 1, 2007 at 2:26PM
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rozannadanna(8 TX)

Lance, a man that can gather wild seeds in the wild and propagate enough to gather and sell the seeds has to love plants.

    Bookmark   August 1, 2007 at 7:08PM
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morz8(Washington Coast Z8b)

You've talked to his kids? OK, that's probably cool then. I was going to suggest you take it slow because it really does sound like he's trying to sweep you off your feet (I'm the suspicious type!) - until you've met some of his friends or family. That wasn't so hard decades ago when we were in school, everybody knew everybody!

Enjoy yourself, get those new gardens tilled :)

    Bookmark   August 1, 2007 at 8:24PM
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onewheeler(Z5 N.S.)

Rozanna I only have one question for you....Does he have a brother or cousin near me. LOL

Good luck, go, have fun.

Valerie

    Bookmark   August 1, 2007 at 9:02PM
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taureau

The brain may take advice, but not the heart, and love, having no geography, knows no boundaries. Truman Capote

That was for the tiller more than anything. Hahaha. Have fun, but keep both eyes open, wide....T

    Bookmark   August 2, 2007 at 2:37PM
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zeffyrose_pa6b7(6b7)

It all sounds wonderful and you sure deserve to find a great guy---

My first question---HOW DID YOU MEET HIM ?? or is that none of our business----LOL

I met my DH in a bar and neither one of us drinks---go figure---LOL

good Luck and please keep us posted-----

I'm waiting for the next date report--

this is exciting.

Florence

    Bookmark   August 2, 2007 at 4:22PM
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rozannadanna(8 TX)

The Next Date is tonight. Or in about an hour - not sure what we will do - he knows Denver better than I do.

And Florence would you believe cupid.com. Between the phone and the internet we probably visit at least 3 times a day and we are finding we have more and more in common. If nothing else he will make an excellent friend and as everyone knows, you just can't have too many friends.

    Bookmark   August 2, 2007 at 6:14PM
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zeffyrose_pa6b7(6b7)

Well---this is the day after the date---How did it go ??--

Is cupid .com a local site ?----because you said he is from Denver----or was it just a stroke of luck that he is close by.

Have a great time----sounds interesting.

Florence

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    Bookmark   August 3, 2007 at 3:18PM
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rozannadanna(8 TX)

Well Florence - we had dinner and talked and laughed till well after midnight. So the date was wonderful; totally comfortable being around him and talking with him. I feel inadequate in many ways because he is so brilliant - a renaissance man in every sense of the word. He is actually going to escort me to my son's wedding next weekend. That takes a brave man to meet all 4 of my sons and my mother and my first husband in the same setting.

Cupid.com is national. He is from Ft. Collins which is about 60 miles north of Denver but he used to live in Denver so knows it well.

    Bookmark   August 3, 2007 at 7:35PM
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zeffyrose_pa6b7(6b7)

Rozanna---don't ever feel inadequate----if he is brilliant then surely he finds you delightful.

He must enjoy your company or he wouldn't keep coming back

Imagine what a brave mean he is to meet all your family--

He sounds like a treasure .

Keep us posted---

Florence

    Bookmark   August 4, 2007 at 6:38PM
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rozannadanna(8 TX)

Florence, Today, Mother and youngest son, Jeremiah, are going to His "town" for a concert in the park and "flea marketing". He suggested it because he wanted to meet my mother and thought she might enjoy it. Yea, the man is definately getting to me - wanting to meet my mother and escort her around and thinking of things that she might enjoy. And he suggested Jeremiah bring his guitar and play some of the songs he has written.

    Bookmark   August 5, 2007 at 10:05AM
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zeffyrose_pa6b7(6b7)

WOW -WOW -WOW -WOW--------
SOUNDS GOOD !!! I liked your mother when I met her at Susans-------

My present DH took my 16 year old daughter with us on one of our first dates-----That really impressed me----Many guys just want to get you alone----

Keep us posted------You deserve some happiness !!

Florence

    Bookmark   August 5, 2007 at 10:57AM
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carla17(Z7 NC)

Please tell your mother and Jeremiah hello. I hope Jeremiah checks our your beau well!

Carla

    Bookmark   August 5, 2007 at 2:26PM
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rozannadanna(8 TX)

Jeremiah thinks he is cool. Mother said "wonder what he would look like without the mustache but she liked him.

    Bookmark   August 6, 2007 at 7:35AM
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michaelalreadytaken

He sounds like a nice guy Rozanna and I'm happy for you.

MichaelAT

    Bookmark   August 7, 2007 at 2:07PM
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ronda_in_carolina

Wow...what a romantic!! Enjoy the trip!! You deserve it...you deserve everything.

:o)

Ronda

    Bookmark   August 7, 2007 at 2:19PM
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hoovb zone 9 sunset 23

Have fun but be careful.

    Bookmark   August 11, 2007 at 4:58PM
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lionheart_gw

Rozanna,

This sounds wonderful! Enjoy it. See where it goes. Regardless of how it ends up, it sounds like a great way to grow and learn and have some enjoyment.

I giggle like a teenager just reading about this. I'm so tickled that you have some companionship with a kindred spirit.

P.S. The tiller cinches it!

    Bookmark   August 14, 2007 at 9:52PM
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rozannadanna(8 TX)

The man is solid gold. He had met Mother and Jeremiah but not the rest of the "thundering heard" which includes the first ex husband and his assorted other ex wives. He accompanied me to the rehersal, the rehersal dinner, the wedding and the reception and helped me with the pre wedding breakfast at my house the morning of the wedding. He sailed through all of it and them with grace and charm. He kept me laughing enough that I didn't have a nervous breakdown.

AND - he has agreed to accompany me to the ARE for their fall festival. That will be the clincher - can he stand a 24 hour road trip with me without one or the other of us killing the other on the way and dumping the body on the side of the road.

    Bookmark   August 15, 2007 at 8:08AM
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pagan(8b)

rozanna - you are right - the road trip will be the acid test!

OKXOXOXOX

    Bookmark   August 15, 2007 at 9:20AM
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rozannadanna(8 TX)

Pagan I only wish I had to worry about him being after my "vast wealth"

    Bookmark   August 15, 2007 at 10:08AM
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zeffyrose_pa6b7(6b7)

Rozanna-----I am so happy for you-----He sure sounds like a gem.

Helping with the family------If he can stay cool through all of that he sounds like a winner---

Please keep us posted----

I would love to meet him and meet you again.

If my surgery wasn't scheduled for sept. I would be tempted to fly to my sisters and come to the ARE.

Best of luck,

Florence

    Bookmark   August 15, 2007 at 10:14AM
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dirt_yfingernails(z3-4 MN)

I've been surfing this thread for a while. Rozanna, sounds like a great adventure, enjoy. And as to on-line roamances, my BIL was 40 and still living at home. Had a 5-7 year romance with a gal and took off across the country to join her. They married a year later and are still very happy 5 years later. It can happen.

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rozannadanna(8 TX)

Update - he has taken me Rose Rustling and has decided that my back deck needs to be enclosed to form a "sun room/greenhouse". And he has asked me to marry him.

    Bookmark   August 22, 2007 at 7:23PM
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lionheart_gw

Rozanna, how long have you been seeing each other? A rush proposal can be a bit disquieting, although whirlwind romances ARE thrilling. It sounds so fast, though.

It may be wonderful and perfect, but I'd see what the buzz is regarding his courting style...is this typical behavior for him?...that sort of stuff. You need background and perspective.

Always trust your gut instincts (backed up with rational information gathering). Hell, it could be great.

Tell us what you think about all this so far. Keeping a good thought for you!

    Bookmark   August 23, 2007 at 12:56AM
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rozannadanna(8 TX)

I actually "talked" on line for several months with him before we ever met so I know him pretty well. He is moving to Denver in 2 weeks which will make it even better but my "gut" says this is good and right. And in all my past relationships, even marriage, my gut always knew it wasn't quite right.

    Bookmark   August 23, 2007 at 8:38AM
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zeffyrose_pa6b7(6b7)

WOW---that was fast------my romantic side says "go for it" but my more conservative side says "take it slow"---what does your mother think about this latest developement ??

Do you know any people who have known him for a long time ????

Please keep us posted !!!

Florence

    Bookmark   August 23, 2007 at 8:41AM
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dirt_yfingernails(z3-4 MN)

Wow, I am so happy you've found love. So, what was your answer?

    Bookmark   August 23, 2007 at 2:12PM
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anntn6b(z6b TN)

DANG, Rozanna,
Bury a tidbit in an older thread, why don't you?
And since you put it in under "So tell me what you guys think" I'll echo what Florence says "Have you met folks who have known him for a long, long time?"
If you have and if it feels right, and if your family (especially your mature sons) feels good about him.
I've got friends who just married in December who were a couple for ten years with separate households. They grew together but missed ten years of a deeper committment.

I'll guess you've already found that you share values. Larry and I have been accumulating questions that we think folks should answer. There are no right or wrong answers, but prospective spouses would be better to have the same answer.
If you see a car driving in front of you, about to loose a tire, do you try to get their attention to warn them? Do you avoid that kind of random interaction with strangers because of potential danger?
If you were in London, and taking day ticket round trip train fares to places and found that your tickets weren't stamped, would you reuse them the next day or toss them because you'd gotten your money's worth?
At a restaurant, if there's a tab error in your favor, would you bring it to the server's attention?

Or would these questions answers not be worth asking?

Good luck and God bless,
Ann

    Bookmark   August 24, 2007 at 12:45PM
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rozannadanna(8 TX)

Yes I have met people who have known him a long time; my sons think he is cool

*If you see a car driving in front of you, about to loose a tire, do you try to get their attention to warn them?* Yes - both of us
*Do you avoid that kind of random interaction with strangers because of potential danger?* No - both of us

*If you were in London, and taking day ticket round trip train fares to places and found that your tickets weren't stamped, would you reuse them the next day or toss them because you'd gotten your money's worth?* - not sure

*At a restaurant, if there's a tab error in your favor, would you bring it to the server's attention?* Yes most definately for both of us

So yes we both share a lot of the same values about our selves, our families, people we come into contact with, etc.

    Bookmark   August 24, 2007 at 2:49PM
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anntn6b(z6b TN)

OK, I don't have to worry for you.
(And that you know both your answers already speaks volumns in a very positive way.)

    Bookmark   August 24, 2007 at 3:10PM
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rozannadanna(8 TX)

He just called me - he is in an ancient cemetery rustling rose cuttings for me. Called me to make sure he has the procedure down right - clippers - check; water and paper towels - check; big zip loc bags - check; then rushing home to refrigerate them till he can get them to me.

    Bookmark   August 24, 2007 at 5:48PM
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zeffyrose_pa6b7(6b7)

WOW-----what a guy !!!!!!

I'm sure rooting for both of you---------

I just read what I wrote and had to chuckle at the word "rooting"---how apropo--LOL

Best of luck to both of you

He found a treasure and sounds like he knows it.

Florence

    Bookmark   August 25, 2007 at 11:32AM
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rozannadanna(8 TX)

Florence - in 2 weeks he is moving in with me - I never lived with a person of the opposite sex I wasn't related to or married to - Guess I can now be considered a fallen woman. And as to the proposal - I said yes - at this point anyway. We actually talked for several months before we met in person and it was like meeting an old friend.

    Bookmark   August 25, 2007 at 3:23PM
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meredith_e Z7b, Piedmont of NC, 1000' elevation

Oh, Rozanna! Somehow I thought this was the bicycle thread [I know nothing about bikes] so this is thrilling reading of the entire whirlwhil!!

Sometimes I think folks who have 'been there' know what they want or don't much quicker than they used to. I know I can "read" a relationship so much faster now than I could in my 20's.

Congratulations!! Living in sin, my goodness! Hey if my Mom could stand me doing it for 11 years, you'll be fine ;)

Long engagement - if you are concerned about the pace, traditionally that's an option that helps.

:) :)

[PS - Have your man call my Irishman and give him some tips, why dontcha, BTW. About gardening, NOT marriage, bwahaha!]

    Bookmark   August 25, 2007 at 11:20PM
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zeffyrose_pa6b7(6b7)

Rozanna-----I wish you the very best.----I'm waiting to hear the next installment of this wonderful arrangement.

You deserve the best----

Good Luck and tell your guy that I think he is getting a treasure (you)-----

Florence

    Bookmark   August 28, 2007 at 6:42PM
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