My Fish Needs a Friend! (central VA)

zlynxAugust 16, 2011

About a month ago, one of my two 9 year old male goldfish died. I think the remaining fish is lonely. They used to hang out together all the time. Since he's 9 years old, I'm thinking I can't get some small fish for a pal or he won't even notice him (or relate to him). The fish that died had a 10" body (over a foot with tail). The remaining fish is slightly smaller. By happenstance the two fish were male so I never ended up overpopulated. How would you go about finding a plain old (hopefully male) goldfish friend for my lonely guy? He still comes over for a pet now and again but is becoming more distant.

My pond is about 1000 gallons. I looked over my local Craigslist but not sure how to go about trying to find fellow pond people whose ponds might be overstocked.

Thank you for reporting this comment. Undo

Awww, how sad. Sounds like my sweet dog, Laddie, when his bonded buddy, Mickey, passed away. I hope you find a new buddy for him. Who knows, even a younger, smaller fish might give him a new lease on life.


    Bookmark   August 16, 2011 at 6:05PM
Thank you for reporting this comment. Undo

At first he seemed rather frenetic - I thought maybe he was looking all over trying to find his friend. He'd circle around the pool following a particular pattern over and over. But I've also just seen him sit in the water immobile. I don't know how he feels but figure he has to be lonely since he is the only fish in the pool now.

    Bookmark   August 16, 2011 at 6:15PM
Thank you for reporting this comment. Undo
gardengimp(9B Seminole Cnty FL)


I don't know all that much about fish, but I'm certain they are pack animals. I do know a lot about herding dogs, and they need to be in a pack to be mentally healthy - which affects physical healthy.

I've got 3 4" comets and 3 baby comets. The oldest of the baby comets is now hanging out and packing with the big boys. It is cool to watch a 4" fish and a 1/2" fish side by side grazing.

I would be inclined to go pick up some comets. They sure seem to grow fast, and they will probably all start hanging out before you know it. And that will give your buddy some company while you look around for a perfect gentleman friend.


    Bookmark   August 16, 2011 at 11:29PM
Thank you for reporting this comment. Undo

I'll see what I can do. Here is a photo of the two fish taken in 2006. The top one in this photo is the fish I lost a month ago. You can see the tubercles (white dots) showing he is a male.

Here is a link that might be useful:

    Bookmark   August 17, 2011 at 11:02AM
Thank you for reporting this comment. Undo

The smaller new fish will hang around the larger fish in pretty short order. They like to be with other fish. Spend the $.25 and get a feeder goldfish!

    Bookmark   August 17, 2011 at 11:39AM
Thank you for reporting this comment. Undo

I'll see what I can do then. I hope he will perk up.

Here is a link that might be useful:

    Bookmark   August 17, 2011 at 5:30PM
Thank you for reporting this comment. Undo

What a nice yard and pond. Yes, I'm sure a few more fish will help your lonely fellow perk up.


    Bookmark   August 17, 2011 at 6:27PM
Thank you for reporting this comment. Undo

Fish definitely like to be around other fish, and will do the weirdest things.

I keep some comets and my favorite Kio in a big fish tank. When adding a pair of Kio to my pond I got afraid they would jump out (one did when I was right there) so I tried to catch them and put in my tank. I only got one of them so inside he went.

That fish seemed a little strange in how he swam so I never put him outside but instead tried several things to "cure" him, salt, antibiotics, parasite killers, but he got worse till his tail turned and turned and finally went in a sharp bend. So I named him "Ofish" as all he could swim was tight circles. He ate well, but in between feedings tended to stay on the bottom.

So what did the other fish do? They would school around him and also sit on the bottom. Poor Ofish finally succumbed to whatever he had, but the rest of my fish still tend to school up and sit on the bottom where he used to go.

I had one fish from the pond in my tank for a bit and he learned the bottom sitting thing too. He's back in my pond but he finds a little spot on the side behind a plant and just sits there by himself. I put him in with a friend who must have got himself eaten (bye bye ShyBoy ) and he got worse, almost never seeing him.

I've since added some shubunkins and they swim around, sometimes my Koi will join with them, mostly he likes to bottom sit and hide.

    Bookmark   August 22, 2011 at 1:00PM
Thank you for reporting this comment. Undo

I think everything needs a buddy,I hate seeing a horse,a goat no buddy, has to be a very lonely life.

    Bookmark   August 28, 2011 at 3:47PM
Thank you for reporting this comment. Undo

That is very sad Lynx.

I am sorry to hear of this and I guess it is normal to have an attachment to animals like this. I hope you find a way to make your fish happy. I had no idea one could keep a fish that long. Great job I would say.
I know my birds always did better with a companion. In fact, my frog seems to be singing a lot more now that another has shown up.


    Bookmark   August 28, 2011 at 4:35PM
Thank you for reporting this comment. Undo

Two days ago, I got him a friend! My "rescue" efforts failed (never heard from the friend with a small pond and lots of little fish) so I got a 4" sarassa comet pal. I have seen him several times since then. Trying to feed some floating Tetra "crisps" which the little fish sometimes finds and sometimes doesn't. It was tough yesterday as Irene was making things pretty wet and I think sunk some of these floating crisps.

I do not see the two fish hanging around together but I'm pretty sure they are aware of each other. Got to get the little guy to put on a little meat so they can be friends!

Here is a link that might be useful:

    Bookmark   August 28, 2011 at 6:19PM
Sign Up to comment
More Discussions
Skippy Installation - Lots of Pictures
I spent last weekend redoing the pools at the top of...
Can anyone identify these fish?
I have a fair size pond that came with a house I just...
Rubbermaid vs Galvanized stock tank pond
I'd like to upgrade from my little whiskey barrel ponds...
Pond Heat
What is the best method of heating water to 70 degrees...
Sticky Monkey Flower Plant
I am trying to find more info on Sticky Monkey flower...
Sponsored Products
2 Day Designs Reclaimed Russian River End Table - WV106
$306.00 | Hayneedle
Electric Bill Counter
$229.00 | FRONTGATE
Butterfly Silver Plated Cake Set
Classic Hostess
Shower Curtain Artistic - My Perfect Garden
$89.00 | DiaNoche
Cone Plug-In LED Brushed Steel Double Head Wall Lamp
$79.95 | Lamps Plus
ZUO Pendant Lights Intergalactic 1-Light White Ceiling Pendant 50103
Home Depot
Aspects High-Output 2-Light 48 in. White Shoplight ESI248HOCWXSE12
Home Depot
Liberty Al Fresco II Server
People viewed this after searching for:
© 2015 Houzz Inc. Houzz® The new way to design your home™