ok, so after even more reading, and a dozen different search queries, Ive come to the conclusion, that the odd top growth, is there to help aid the browth of the lower branches. It seems like im going to have to cut JUST above them (turns out the center trunk is at the perfect angle to be cut, I now see why its grown this way). That, plus the removal of a few of th elower branches is what I need to get it into shape.

The problem now, is that most of the pruning is recommended to be done in late winter, namely before or just at bud swell. As you can see in the pic, there is leaves and flowers already. Its not to late to prune it? SHould I wait till I plant it to prune, or do it while its in the pot?