I've been meaning to email but as you can tell from my post life sucks (still) here too.

I'm moving to Florida. Wanna come too?

I'm going to try and find someone who wants to flip the house, as I couldn't be bothered painting it and the carpets and flooring need to be replaced after 10 years anyway.

After the past year (you know 80% of that story), I can't get out of here fast enough, now that I've decided to move.

Bada, frankly I'd leave CA. Are you that happy with the environment? It is an awfully expensive place to live. As a sage (the plant not wise) middle aged person, I'd advise you to TRY to live your dream.....figure out what and where you'd like to be and do and then go for it...with blinders on to everything else.

If you don't really know, try some stuff out. I'd also like to see you back with some sort of support system, and certainly I'd like to see you OUT OF THE Ex'S PLACE.

Florida would probably be cheaper and give you some more sun....

Usually you can pull yourself up out of any poor educational hole...but it does mean a lot of re-do and work. Many hugs...

well, since we covered a lot tonight, L, what else? :P

lis, ya know, I should have moved back to NYC. I really should have but I started something here, already have a job, and I decided to stick it out and see what happens... even just got a car of my own, which is a big deal. so now it's a bit too late, but CJ and I were already talking about how important a support system is... i've gotten in touch with people from my past, and it's helped immensely. too bad they're on the east coast. but ya know, I do have to follow my dream, and hopefully I'll be able to sooner than later... I think something I couldn't give up from here... it's the ocean. and I kinda have to be in a big city... it was a tough decision to make. and it sure is expensive out here. I do think NYC is moreso...

Anyway, I do think it's all a big lesson I've got to learn, so here goes... wish me luck.

bada

bada,

It does sound like you had a bad setback...relationships that crumble can be hurtful..especially if you had to rearrange your life for someone. (Slap me if I wax "Landslide" by Stevie Nicks).

Follow your bliss and I hope that you find another crazy plant person to live with for a while...that could be fun.

Until then, just keep your chin up and do your best to get through each day like the rest of us poor suckers.

You have email.

got your message, shady, will get back to you shortly...:)

Clint, thanks for the supportive words... "rest of us poor suckers", got a kick out of that one...lol. we all just gotta do our best, that's certainly right...

... ooooooh... to live with another plant person, now that would be something...

Landslide's a BEAUTIFUL song. one of the best songs written, imho.

bada

Even with money tight, make an investment and join all the local orchid/plant/gardening clubs -- or at least go as a guest to a meeting or two. It's not only the people there. They have networks of friends, family and coworkers who may be just looking for a roomate and/or a new friend. Try to hide the fact that you're a dipsy orchid lover like the rest of us here.

my best to you, bada:-)
(read feng shui, re: relationships, new job)
you're smart and funny; you'll do fine.

Good Idea, CJ... hmmmm... will definitely have to consider that.

anybody do any meeting up through that meet up site?

Thanks Judy, good to hear from you! "you're smart and funny; you'll do fine" is probably one of the best lines I've heard in a long time...you could have added cute, too, but how would you have known that?...LOL.

bada

Hey hard times are well hard, I have had my fair share, but we won't get into that.

I would like to offer you some help with your plant, depending on how many you have and how picky they are, I would be willing to take care of them until you are able to take them back.

I would hate to have you have to start over once you find a place to keep them. I can not garuntee I would keep them all perfectly healthy or so they will be ready to bloom, but I would do my best to keep them alive.

I know trusting someone you don't know with your investment is not a great idea, but if feel you can trust me I would gladly plant sit, at not charge but the cost to get them to me and get them back.

Other than that I don't know what I can do to help you and I wish you the very best.

P.S. sorry for all the typos,

See my post about sinus surgery, I am not at the top of my game right now.

I had a very sleepless night. I guess I shouldnt eat cookie dough ice cream before going to bed. Duh! Anyway, I had a whole series of bizarre dreams and you were in one them. You had moved to Mpls. and wanted to see my orchids. Just before I woke up, I was in the process of wrapping them all in newspaper and packing them in boxes to bring to your house. ThatÂs all.

K

Kev,

Eating anything before bedtime gives me creepy nightmares. I'll never forget the time I had a huge piece of chocolate cake and a glass of milk before my head hit the pillow--I was running from cannibals in Borneo while searching for latouria dends. I woke up in a big pile of sweat with a knot in my stomach.

hey bada... been thinking, and there's really nothing smart that i can think of to tell you right now but i understand it's really rough... but you know what, be strong, and just move on, 'cause there's a lot out there you haven't experienced! and before long, you'll see everything that's happening now is history... btw, plants are very happy, as promised, they are very well taken care of...
and uh, bad dreams and folks pack up boxes of plants to send to your home are exactly what you need now - you see a new life has begun! lol...

Hey Bada, c'mon down to Florida- beach side, surf, orchids can grow outside under a tree and if you find the right place, may be a lot cheaper than CA. You can always hit South Beach if you are getting bored. You WILL MAKE it on your own, remember even the great mountains were conquered my multiple little steps....alright will stop here...
All honesty, I have also found Northern suburb of Atlanta looks very attractive in terms of living expense, job ,market, housing etc.
Best Wishes to you.

Kev, that's funny, I'm honored i was in your dream, I wonder how I looked...:P funny orchids end up in our dreams, last night I was having a nightmare in a new place that was suppose to be my new home... but it was old and cattleyas were growing through cracks in the wall... I believe I was being chased by something... hmmmm...anyways, kev, one of these days I may stalk you out there in mnpls anyways, just to see your gardens... how are they doing this year?

I believe I had yogurt and granola before bed last night... maybe it's the dairy?

Sambac, "you will always have South Beach" HAHAHAHAHA... oh, I'd love to see what that place is like... bet clint's been there...

me 171, thanks for the offer, I'll definitely keep you posted as it comes crunch time to getting a place, well it already is, but when it really gets to be crunch time... I'm a bit surprised but I have this really nice clump of epi pepperomia and no one at all has shown interest... ah well... I'd definitely want that babysat for sure...

Hey cat, thanks for taking good care of them... pls let me know how the pleuro adelae handles everything. Man, I am soooo look forward to the blooms, that's the better red variety also... hope you like red. :) and also thanks for the inspirational words, too, you and sambac. I will be stronger and there is so much to life that I haven't even begun to dream about, let alone experience. It's exciting and scary... but i do hope it gets better. eek.

So far things are managing ok, little by little is true. I may settle on a place which isn't perfect but big. but, we'll see, have to talk to the guy tonight. I do wish I could sleep. I haven't had more than 5 hrs sleep for a week now... but all this, I hope will pay off in the future...

(sorry, did not edit)

bada

Well let me know,

3holejack@gmail.com

and of course you would have to give me a little coaching on this one since I havn't grown it yet. But I always love to try new things. Plus anything I do wrong I won't kill it because it will be back in your hands before to much damage can be done. Then I will know if I should look into some for myself.

Hope things are looking up, e-mail me if there is anything I can do, even just for comunication.

I think the interesting part of that dream was that I was packing the orchids up to take to you so you could take a look. Strange, no?

You had blond hair - curly.

K

oh man, kev, couldn't be further than the truth... like, really far... maybe a hair coloring is in store? Isn't that the thing to do in rebound? (among other things.)Anyways, I do have some plants for you. you do ok with mounted stuff, right?

thanks me_ (thanks to me? is the a trick?) I'll email you in a bit...

bada

whoa, looks who's surfaced.

If you go for the curly blond look, you'll have to post a pic! afawk on this side, you look like a dancing green bean....

How do you all get orchids to star in your dreams? Mine consisted of maggots, millipedes, and headless gutless fish flopping around in a sack of something....

L - are you really moving?

You all have creepy dreams. :0-

>Kev, that's funny, I'm honored i was in your dream, I wonder how I looked...:PLOL!! He's stressed out, practically homeless and orchidless and ... he is a little vain and still has a great sense of humor. Bada, I guess I can stop worrying about you now! BTW, in case anyone cares, he is extremely cute and funny so he really has nothing to worry about.

Got the restrepias. Now I know why you never had time to do anything but nurture your chids. They are the healthiest things I have ever seen growing in a thumb pot!!!! They dry out in a few hours!! Ok. I have to stop whining, wanking and being obnoxious. I think I have to go water the thumb pots now.. hehehehe!!!

-Mimi

oh mimi, you're the sweetest? albeit in a round about way... lol. I was having such a crappy night, too. I'm glad you liked the little ones... I'll miss those two... you'll see the guttalata has like a monstruously huge flower for the size of the plants.

k, she's treally moving. and re you're dreams, TMI. (oh, look who's talking? shucks.) yes, L is in full throttle moving... like, it's amazing... and I'm the one who actually needs a place...

I had a nightmare once where pleuros were mounted all over my body... and an evil looking vanda wanted to join, 6 foot roots and all, and was screaming HE!! NO!!!

I think it has something to do with what vandas did to me.

bada

Bada's nightmare was the worst....Floof coming in through cracks in the walls??? eeeeek!!!!!! horrors...

Ki's dream sounds like a sushi bar.

I almost never remember my dreams but once I dreamt that tarantulas suddenly appeared crawling on the walls of my bedroom. Freaked out, I got some bug spray and when I sprayed the spiders, they instantly turned into cute little kittens. Sadly, I was then spraying the lil' dears faces with bug spray. :( Then i woke up screaming ...as usual.

Bada...you're one of the dudes, along with Mike Boyd and Clint and Kevin and a bunch of others...that, through your posts on GW, got me into orchids! For that, I'll always hate you. Just kidding... :D

You will become a king among men.
-MB

hi bada, will definitely send you a pic of blooming pleuro adelae, I've gotten a 3' lead, wonder if that will bring me a bloom? i saw a pic of it, yes it's a very cool red...
regarding floof, well, i didn't like them either, i love catts though, but if they are yours, suddenly you'd like them too. It all started when i wanted to surprise myself by ordering a whole bunch of unknown crosses, just to see what will bloom... well, guess what, most of them are floofies (sp?)... lol... so of course i like them too, and angs, and pleuros, and vanda species... and i'm still wondering when will i stop buying orchids :)
so i wouldn't mind having a nightmare with floofy catts grow thru the cracks in the wall :)

Floof in the wall would be a dream for me. When I dream of orchids, they're mostly pulsating bug-like things that resemble carnivorous plants. Nothing I've seen before, even in pictures. (Maybe that's my subconscious mind wanting to discover a new species??)

Bada, You'll have a friend here if you move to North Texas. We have a long growing season and mild winters, but you'll have to deal with the 100+ days in the summer. It could be a challenge for you to grow all of those pleuros here ;0, but just think of all the floof you could grow...Vandas hate me too.

In my mind's eye bada is thin and wiry with black hair and dark brown eyes. He probably has poor vision from squinting to look at all of those tiny pleuro flowers *RUN*.

Yes, South Florida is gorgeous and I've been there several times. I just wouldn't want to live there from May-November and face the monster hurricanes.

Running from tornados in April-May is enough for me to know that Mother Nature will smack you down if given the chance.

Remember I do know a bit about you, so I have no idea where the blond, curly hair thing came from. If I remember correctly it was kind of porn star blond. Porn? Movies? You're in the movie-making capitol of the world. Have you considered? Could pay the rent for a while. Just trying to help you out you know. Have to consider all options. Right?

Well, not sure what you're thinking plantwise, but yes I do mounts. Still would like to see the list and what you're selling off into slavery. Smack sales have been off lately, but you never know what I might be able to come up with.

K

bada, sorry about that, i meant *3"lead* not 3' - don't want you to start getting so jealous with my care for the adelae... no, no miracle yet! but laelia dayana has a bud, it sure is a cute little thing...

as for moving, or moving back - NYC is always available... lol...

Lordy, people... just now checking here...

Floof dreams ARE scary, goshdarnit.

cat, I totally get you about the whole if you grow it yourself, truth be told I grow(grew) floof by accident and they became dear to me... sorta. luckily catts are really easy for me, so I never had to devote all that much to them to get them happy... but to get a 3' lead.... OMG. sorry to say, but that would be a dream come true...*sigh* (now that IS sad)... have you seen a pleuro titan? A couple friends grow it and how a lead on that really do get to 3'... the laelia dayana has a bud? AWESOME! I should send more plants your direction...

kevin, you fiend... of course I will try the 'movies' roflol. nah, that kind of of work is just too tiring, don't you think? :P Ironically, I do work in the movie industry, but not 'that' movie industry... I thought I emailed the list? well it's down to 30 or 40 now. thank god, but definitely some that I could entrust with your caring hand...

clint... well, you almost got me right...*sigh* Don't people golf in TX? (that's what madge says anyway.)

So I didn't get the apt. oh well... got a few more weeks, hoping for the best...

bada

Bada,

I hate golf. I live on a golf course and curse the people that hit balls onto my patio. I only went golfing once with some friends to drive the cart and have a couple of beers *grin*

In fact, I think I'd rather go to the dentist than play golf.

bada , sorry about the apartment, you'll find something, you will... and yes, i will plantsit for you anytime... i even promise not to love them too much, so i can return them to you when you have your new place:)

Yes, Ki, I'm moving. The stress and BS of the past year have finally worn me down. Not to mention the fact all my money is tied up in the house and I'm broke. And houses soak up money faster than a sponge water. Taking care of a 2600 sf house and the yard by myself is a lot of work. Of course, one person doesn't need a house this big anyway. I use all of three rooms and one of the baths. I dust the other bathrooms rather than cleaning them. When friends come over and I actually venture into the living room, I usually notice it's been a while since I've vacuumed and dusted the whole house.

I've got half a mind to buy a condo on the beach in Miami, except I can't afford it.

I've wanted to move back or nearer to a bigger city for a good 12 years. I used to take long weekends once or twice a month to get my dose of "civilization" but haven't been able to afford that luxury for a few years or haven't had the time.

Since downsizing is a pain, I'm just going to sell it all and replace everything when i know how much room I have, when I get where ever it is I'm going. Seriously, the only furniture I'm taking is the master bedroom furniture since it's gorgeous solid cherry, a recliner (it had been my dad's but I never use it so it looks new) and some occasional tables I have in the living room. The artwork is coming with me as is the pottery I've collected in the various countries I've traveled to.

In two weeks I'm having a moving sale and hope to sell the house, everything in it and the car all at the same time.

Paul's coming up to help me out. What doesn't sell or that I'm keeping, he's going to take back to Florida and store for me until the house is sold. I'm only keeping behind with me the dog, the birds and computer (I still have to work while all this is going on), and a few things i don't trust him to "handle with care". But it's all got to fit in the van when it's my time to leave.

I've never been one to just slowly ease my way out of a rut. Total upheaval is the only thing that works for me.

Or, I could be having a midlife crisis. I think I'm going to get that Honda S2000 I've been coveting since they came out.

Y'all have strange dreams.

wow, talk about upheaval. Hope the sale(s) go smoothly. Must feel good to have made the decision and have things moving.

personally, I can't imagine having too much space.....