While they don't qualify for everything you list, here are my suggestions:

Sweetspire 'little henry' has elongated white flowers, I know...you said you didn't want that...but this is a nice little shrub that does well in sun or shade. I have bright green foliage right now, ready to flower, and in fall the foliage is a nice rusty color.

Smokebush Golden Spirit is pretty amazing in full sun, and would probably do better in your zone than mine. Stunning chartreuse foliage in summer, and smokey plumes. I had this as an upright tree form, but it died back to the snowline this past winter and now it's growing as a shrub, but it's a FAST grower.

Pieris "forest flame" or "mountain fire"?? I forget. Slow growing, but evergreen, interesting foliage, nice bright red new growth, don't put in afternoon sun, it won't be happy.

I love native viburnums and look for ways to incorporate them into appropriate spots.

Ninebark Diablo, gorgeous burgundy foliage, flowers pink. The foliage is gorgeous. Center Glow is another gorgeous one in this family and the flowers are darker, almost red.

Sambucus Black Lace. Gorgeous dark foliage, flowers pinkish eventually turning white, who cares I have it for the foliage. The look of a Japanese Maple.

The above 3 are the favorites in my yard, grow well and I love the colored foliage.

Hydrangea Limelight is my favorite here, but I also like Quickfire and it blooms earlier starting white and changing to pink shades.
Cher

jillyluis - regarding the doomed Forsythia. Is it too late to suggest that you stop pruning it? They don't actually need it. Every few years you can take out some of the very old wood but really it is not necessary to touch them at all most years. On the other hand, if you are pruning because it is too big for its postition, by all means dig it up. They are incredible easy to propagate - just shove some twigs in the ground - so you can have Forsythias wherever you like.

Thanks so much for the wonderful suggestions! I am very excited about the ideas!!! , and Flora, thanks for the thought about the forsythia, but you hit the nail on the head...the forsthyia are just too huge. They are in our very narrow side yard and taking over the whole thing

Forsythia root where they touch the ground. That's why they get so big. Ninebarks are wonderful, but the OP didn't want anything wide, and they are indeed very wide. Some viburnums are narrower than others--V. dilatatum 'Cardinal Candy' has remained relatively narrow for me. For berries, you'll need another dilatum cultivar, and 'Asian Beauty' might work; it's tall but also relatively narrow. V. nudum 'Winterthur' stays pretty small--5-6 feet-and is the last viburnum to bloom in my yard. You'll need another clone of V. nudum to get the lovely berries which start out cream, turn to pink and then to black.

Consider some of the tall grasses: Erianthus ravennae and some of the Miscanthus--I think 'Morning Light' is the loveliest and most graceful.