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Uninvited Pets

Posted by bakemom z6 Ohio (My Page) on
Mon, May 8, 06 at 19:43

This post is probably a bad idea. But I really am interested in hearing the responses. This is not about ANYTHING other than guests and relatives showing up at your house with their uninvited pets (well let's face it - dogs).
Limiting this conversation JUST to uninvited pets (not strays, leashes, nothing but this topic), has this happened to you? Do you care? Do you not care?

Here's the reason. I have two very good sets of friends who show up time and again with their dogs. In fact, I have told both that their dogs can't come over anymore - in a nice way of course. My house is filled with antiques and I have cats. I love my friends' dogs, but they crap everywhere, chase my cats and run amuck through my house. The cats are terrified, but the owners think it is funny when their large dogs tree my cats.

I have had neighbors and friends ask one of these families to leave because it was a no dog zone (hey we love dogs, but the hosts of the block party didn't want dogs running around and the problems that can follow). This thread is NOT anti-dog. I'm just puzzled by people who will bring their dogs (in these cases, very untrained) to a home with no dogs and get huffed when I say they can't come in. (It's fine now as I have explained that dogs just don't work in this house with my cats and furnishings).

I love animals and enjoy dogs - it's just not right for my home. Now, my cats aren't perfect and neither are my kids. This isn't about that. This is about bring large untrained dogs to a home that clearly doesn't welcome them.

My friends claim they can't leave their dogs at home because the dogs get angry and poop in the house for revenge. The other friend says she loves her dog so much she can't understand why others don't love her as well. She is a great pooch - just not over at my house.

Ok, I'm hitting the send button.

Follow-Up Postings:

RE: Uninvited Pets

I don't think it's a bad idea. I feel the same as you when it comes to friends and family and their pets. I am very quick to tell them, no animals in the house, and if your pet can't behave outside then you need to take them somewhere else. I'm hitting the send button also.

RE: Uninvited Pets

I am a HUGE dog lover but would NEVER even THINK about taking one of mine to someone else's house without asking permission.

The very thought astounds me...dogs never act the same outside their own environment...

Even though my dogs are well trained and are actually better behaved outside the home, I still wouldn't do it....

Are you sure they are your 'friends'? LOL!

RE: Uninvited Pets

...nope...never mind...hitting the send button...I think we're all on the same page here...

RE: Uninvited Pets

Im with you on that too. Your house, your rules. Some dogs, no matter how well behaved/trained they me be, have a natural instinct to go chasing after cats and other animals. As for the block party and such like that, dogs dont know who is not a dog person or better yet, who may even have allergies to them. Or even those who may be petrified of them.

RE: Uninvited Pets

I don't think you're wrong for feeling that way.
I have 3 (2 large ones & a small one) dogs and a
cat, who all get along great. My mother stops by
out of the blue with her 2 large dogs, next thing
I know, the cat is hiding in my houseplants, and
it's a free for all... barking, broken plant stems,
they're banging into the glass coffee table, lamps
are teetering, ashtrays and glasses and knocked
over.... good grief, it's looks like WWW III when
they leave, and now my dogs are riled up for a good
30 minutes after they're gone...
let's not even get into the time her & her dogs
stopped by for a suprise visit while I was out in
the yard checking my jugs, and her dogs ruined 4
of my containers, after I worked so hard to teach
my dogs to keep away from my containers... GRRRRR

The comedian Ron White put it best in one of his
standup specials when he said, "I'm a dog lover...
actually I just love MY DOG". I would never show
up to anyones house with my little "zoo", even if
they were invited, but thats just me.

Hitting send......

RE: Uninvited Pets

I adore cats and really don't like dogs. If someone brought either animal to my house I would be angry. What nerve!

RE: Uninvited Pets

I always ask first, and arrange for a sitter or kennel if its not ok. If someone's dog is "revenge pooping" they definatly need some retraining (usually the people, more than the dog) and would do well with crate training (the dog, not the people!). My dog can't come over to my MIL's, but 95 yo Gramma Lou next door loves having Dora stay there when we do the family rounds.

RE: Uninvited Pets

I love dogs and cats...I don't like people who don't listen to me when I say something nicely to them.

If you invite them over again, or they stop by and they have their dogs, I would politely remind them of what you said and reply, "I'm sorry, I love you, and I'd really like to enjoy your company today, but with your dogs here, I cannot entertain you."
Go in the house. Shut the door.
If they don't understand then, they are really really thick.
And if they think you're rude, they should look at what they've done by disregarding you and your neighbor's request.
DH has a friend who has a dog that is absolutely insane. My dog is a very calm dog (though a hunter, she is good to the cats and other dogs), but this dude's dog is a jumper a barker, and always trying to hump my dog. Not to mention what he'd do to the cats. The friend is welcome at my house. The dog is not. The friend knows it, he doesn't bring it (or maybe he can see in my eyes that if he does, he risks his dog getting clubbed in the face by me...I don't like ill-mannered pets, particularly if they go after one of my own).
(This comes from someone who has a biscuit for every neighborhood dog and digs places in the garden especially for them to lie down and cool off)

RE: Uninvited Pets

I am glad to hear your comments. My friend's husband was very resentful when I would not let their dogs in and commented that the dogs were then stuck in the car and it was hot. I had no idea they were out there. Luckily they were in the shade and it was probably OK. They let them out and they ran unleashed around the neighborhood crapping everywhere.

They live 7 minutes away. The dogs should not be stuck in the car and should stay home. But, I'm a cat person, what do I know?

They took their dogs on a trip up north and left the dogs in the back in a parking garage while they spent three hours in a museum. Temps were below freezing. When they got back there was a note on their windshield that it was too cold to leave the dogs in the parking garage and animal control would be called. They left but were a little indignant and somewhat ashamed.

What to do?

RE: Uninvited Pets

Bakemom, your friend's husband is not a responsible dog owner!

We are the owners of a large, sloppy Newfoundland. My husband's family are intense dog people. They wouldn't even think of asking before bringing their dogs to visit, they just show up with them. And we are expected to just show up with ours. I personally find this mind-boggling - hugely inconsiderate! But then, I wouldn't show up at a party with my kids, at any age - and they're adults now - unless the invitation had included them. We are an incredibly self-centered nation, but that's another soapbox. I wish you good luck with trying to teach your friends some basic manners.

RE: Uninvited Pets

It really amazes me how far folks will go to appease their dogs...The other day, on a garden tour, the hostess told a group of us to ignore the mastiff and he won't bite...
He was about 5 feet tall...and drooling!!
I have a hyper German Shepherd. She has a crate. She loves her crate and when she needs to remember her manners, that's where she finds them again!!
Perhaps you could mention that if they MuSt bring their animals, they might bring their crates, too??!!

RE: Uninvited Pets

Wow, Bakemon. Maybe the next time they show up with their dogs and they are going to leave them in the car, you just shouldn't let them stay and visit either. Shade or no shade, it's too hot to leave them in a car. Just like some people shouldn't be parents, there are people who shouldn't own a pet either.
Selfish inconsiderate people seem to be the norm today and it just boggles the mind to see and hear about it; but cruelty to animals is against the law and at least where I live, what they did with their dogs is against the law. Maybe you should have placed an anonymous call to the police or the MSPCA about it. Sounds cruel, but someone needs to make sure their pets are safe and you shouldn't be forced to have them in your home when you don't want them there and they shouldn't be allowed to run all over a neighborhood either.

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